I was watching The Interpreter last night and I was fascinated by the yellow scooter that Nicole Kidman rode in some of the scenes. My father used to have this Kawasaki scooter when I was still little. It had a wide platform at the front where I would stand while my father gave me a ride. I ‘d hold on to the handle and I remember how thrilling it was to ride that scooter, the wind blowing my hair, and my father driving it.
My father rode his scooter one night to go to a friend’s house in the next town. He must have been invited to drink and then drove himself afterwards. He didn’t come home that night. My mother was so worried. She went to that town looking by the roadside to watch out for his scooter. She spotted it in a ditch. She went to the nearest hospital and found my father there. Luckily, he wasn’t badly hurt.
This is the reason why I get so upset when my husband goes out drinking with his friends. Then he drives himself home or one of his friends who had also been drinking will drive him. You aren’t thinking straight when you’ve had even a little to drink. What more if you’ve been drinking all night. Most of the time, he stays out until the wee hours of the morning and I won’t know where he is. He leaves the house without telling me where he’s going because he knows I don’t approve of it. I always tell him that if anything happens to him, I won’t even know where to look for him. I just hope that he’d realize soon that it’s not safe to drink and drive. Before anything bad happens.
August 24, 2006 at 11:15 am
i hope he’d have a spare before deciding to drive himself home. they say that if one drinks away from home, he had to keep a tiny bit of sanity to be able to go home
there are instances where the drunk driver is not the fatality in some accidents. that would be more difficult to bear. maybe you could tell him that one time.
August 25, 2006 at 5:58 pm
Thanks for the comment bing.
Oh, I always remind him, but he’s stubborn, like me.
He just got his driver’s license a few months ago and I did notice that he doesn’t get that drunk when he has to drive himself. But I still think that he shouldn’t be drinking (even a little bit) because even a bottle of beer or a few drinks of alcohol can impair one’s thinking.
November 21, 2006 at 5:54 pm
The same exact situation occurs to many households I know of in New York. There were times I would be awakened from sleep by friends’ wives looking for their husbands.
It is a tough situation, indeed. However, regardless of the risk that he puts himself into, it is not fair that you allow yourself to be upset and angered by it.
Know what a couple friends of the family did? They took out an extra million-dollar life insurance on their husbands. They then told them: “Look, I love you, but I love myself and the kids as well. I know well enough that you are fully aware of the risks you are taking when you drink and drive, and I know as well the hardship it will cause for me and the kids should something horrible happen to you so I’m getting an extra million-dollar life insurance as our protection.”
November 23, 2006 at 11:15 pm
How many times have I also been awakened by phone calls from his buddies’ wives, sometimes in the wee hours of the morning.
Thank you for the concern. I know it’s easy to say that I shouldn’t allow myself to be upset and angered by it. But if it’s your better half that’s acting like this, it just can’t be helped.
Taking a million dollar life insurance on husbands who drink and drive is brilliant, practical and being realistic. And good for them. But don’t you also need to shell out money in order to get that kind of life insurance?